Trust Your Intuition & Say No
Hi,
I'm Jennifer
Life coach, EFT / Tapping expert, yogi & wellness activist with a wild heart dedicated to support you in living the life of your dreams.
See, there often comes a time in life (MANY times, really) where we are faced with something that we can’t or don’t want to do.
And I’m not talking about doing things that scare you…
I’m talking about situations where you feel like your emotional bandwidth or your skills are being taken advantage of.
Times when your intuition says NO—but you say yes to avoid hurting other people’s feelings.
In these cases, it can feel very difficult to establish boundaries, and so you say YES… Even though you know it’s not what’s best.
Does this sound familiar?
Here are some more signs you need to say NO!
ONE, you’re feeling blackmailed or manipulated.
TWO, you feel guilty about letting people down.
THREE, you are not honoring your needs for safety or health or balance.
FOUR, you are scared of how someone might react.
FIVE, your natural tendency is to people please.
I can totally relate to people pleasing.
For almost my entire life, I felt the pressure to put the needs or wants of others before my own.
From sexual abuse as a child, to working jobs that weren’t in alignment with my values, to toxic relationships…
I learned the hard way that saying YES all of the time can leave you feeling drained and overwhelmed.
So even though it felt uncomfortable, I started to practice saying no.
And over time, I got better at it…
And better at it…
Until I was ONLY saying yes to things that aligned with ME and my values.
My emotional bandwidth was protected and I was able to show up as my authentic self when it came time to do so.
See, when we say NO to something… we say YES to something else!
Do you need to start saying no? I’ll get you started…
Let me know in the comments below!
All my love and hugs,
XO
Thanks Jen, I’m excited to see if I can start saying no now after this. I’m considering doing it a few times to really push through
YES, sister, I definitely encourage a revisit, you’ll uncover deeper layers. So glad this was helpful for you. 💜
Thank you so much for this life saver🙏 I really felt off and totally wasted 30 minutes ago. So much balls in the air that I have to hold on if I keep listening to certain parts in myself. The big people pleaser and care taker has been controlling my life for a long time now. I know it just wants to keep me safe but it ends up is blocking the light big time. If I keep holding on to this aspect I really end up in a nuthouse🤯😱🥴 I have to say YES now to my true authentic voice and allow myself to play, have fun, enjoy and live life, I am ready!!!!!! Thanks Jen🙏 Cheers, Dylan
Yes, play increases our expansion! So glad this session was helpful, Dylan. Me and my beloved, have been truly restructuring our lives to include more play, fun, and relaxation, looking at our quality of life, letting go of control, we are with you! I see you owning your, No and creating a life of overflow in all areas.
“No is a holy word,” I love this. What a brilliant way to describe “no”. For me this changes perspective of the negativity that often gets placed on “no” and instead helps deepen/expand the understanding of how we can use it to help ourselves and others.
Yes-beautiful, Dena! We have centuries and beyond of disentangling the negative associations with the word no, it is absolutely a benevolent support in our lives.💛